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As leaders, we often juggle countless responsibilities—driving team performance, building successful organisations, and being present for our families.
Yet, amidst the demands of leadership, there’s a quiet frustration many of us face.
You start the week with the best intentions—planning to implement new habits, routines, or strategies—but by midweek, it all starts to unravel.
Perhaps you’ve tried journaling, exercising, or waking up earlier, but the habits don’t seem to stick.
You know these habits are important, yet something feels off.
You wonder, “Why can’t I make this work? Why do I always fall back into the same patterns?”
Here’s what I’ve noticed in working with countless leaders: It’s not a lack of willpower or commitment holding you back.
Instead, the problem often lies deeper—your habits don’t align with your sense of identity.
If you’ve ever felt frustrated because you can’t seem to create lasting habits or progress, you’re not alone.
It’s a common struggle for high-performing leaders who are already carrying so much on their shoulders.
But what if the answer isn’t about working harder or trying to “fix” yourself?
Here’s the thing: It’s not just about what you do—it’s about who you believe you are.
Most of the time, the habits we struggle to create fail because they aren’t aligned with our identity.
If we constantly say, “I’m not a morning person” or “I’m not good at directions,” we unconsciously reinforce those identities.
These words shape our habits—or lack of them—before we even begin.
Instead of saying, “I’m not a morning person,” you shift to “I’m becoming someone who starts their day with energy and focus.”
Habits that can help you become a better leader
The following habits will help you inspire yourself naturally and in turn, help you build genuine relationships with people inside your organisation.
1. Gratitude
Gratitude assists in creating a more positive outlook. It makes a leader compassionate, considerate, empathetic, and loved among others. To express genuine gratitude is to build interpersonal bonds and create feelings of closeness with the people inside your organisation.
2. Goals
Leaders' overwhelm and anxiety commonly stem from the lack of preparation. Dreams and aspirations turn into reality when we develop a plan with definite steps or goals. A leader who writes down realistic goals feels significantly more motivated and fulfiled when the goals are met.
3. Affirmation
There's value in giving yourself positive affirmations and patting yourself on the back. They upgrade your brain’s neurology, which you can use as a springboard to upgrading your reality. It doesn't happen overnight but by incorporating these daily affirmations into your routine, you'll change your outlook on life little by little.
4. Generosity
Generosity in the workplace can be small actions that have a positive impact on those around you. When we give, our mind is filled with happiness and compassion. It doesn't have to only be financial. You can give by sharing knowledge, encouraging others, or inspiring others to improve.
5. Celebrating Your wins
When achieving a goal, most people immediately move straight onto the next task. However, it helps to take a pause and acknowledge your wins no matter how small they are. This gives you a feeling of pride and happiness, making you want to go further towards your next achievement. Generally, people who celebrate their successes become more positive and confident.
6. Daily Improvements
Making big improvements starts with small positive changes made on a daily basis. When things don’t work out as planned, having this habit in place will change the way we think. We can view every failure as feedback to improve and upgrade our behaviour and results.
7. Get a coach
There are huge improvements in your leadership that you would not be able to make by yourself. This is why you need an invaluable resource that will support you in your leadership journey. Great leaders have coaches that help them make improvements in their life and business.
Your road to inspiring your team and building positive business relationships
I have prepared three journal prompts for you to answer every day. Be amazed by how optimistic and appreciative you'll become.
1. List down 5 things you're grateful for:
It is effective if you express gratitude for things that you don't have yet, but that you would like to focus on and be grateful for in the future. For example, “I am grateful for incredible business opportunities coming to me.”
2. Set 3 goals you want to achieve tomorrow:
3. List down 3 affirmations you want to tell yourself:
Each day, write several “I am” statements down in your journal and declare them out loud. For example, “I am amazingly successful in life and in leadership.” While doing that, visualise concrete examples of how that would look like.
4. List down 1 kind act you did today:
It doesn't have to only be financial. You can give by sharing knowledge, encouraging others, or inspiring others to improve.
5. Write down 3 of your wins
Examples of celebrations might be to dance to a favourite song or go out to dinner with your team. Over time, this will change your thinking and create more joy in your life.
6. What's 1 thing you want to improve on?
By changing how you define yourself, you prime your mind to adopt behaviours that align with your true identity.
This shift doesn’t require an overnight transformation.
Small, intentional steps—a 1% improvement each day—compound over time, creating extraordinary results.
Kath
P.S. Whenever you’re ready, I can help you develop high-performing and supportive teams, find fulfillment in leadership, and create a healthy work-life balance through executive coaching.
To get started, you can book a FREE 30-minute Leadership Success Discovery Session with me.
Every month, I open up my calendar for a handful of leaders to have a 1:1 session with me.
On our call, we dive into actionable strategies to uncover your mindset and leadership gaps and identify your growth opportunities in the next 90 days.
There’s only a limited number of spots, so go check if there are available spaces left 👇
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